There's no funeral, no casseroles from neighbors, no socially accepted way to mourn someone who is still breathing but completely gone to you.
Grief without a death certificate is one of the loneliest kinds — because the world doesn't have a word for it yet.
Have you ever lost someone this way — to illness, addiction, distance, or just time — and how do you carry that kind of loss?
Sometimes people still alive but already different person from what we knew before. I think that kind of pain is really hard because you cannot fully let go and cannot bring them back also. You just learn little by little to accept the memories and carry the sadness quietly. Time maybe not heal everything but somehow it makes the pain softer.
ReplyDeleteI think this kind of grief is one of the hardest because there is no real goodbye. You still see them, but the connection and the person you once knew is not there anymore. Sometimes all you can do is accept that people change, life changes, and keep the good memories without hating them for becoming different.
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